Six months ago, we crossed over the threshold of the House of Dreams for the last time. I wrote this in July 2021, when we were first coming to terms with moving.
We are preparing ourselves to move out of our House of Dreams. It may not be an immediate change–maybe in six months, maybe in several years–but it will come. Last year I became sick with two different infections, which led to the development of a chronic illness. Life has changed with my illness, and the hopes and expectations of our future have had to change also. This house was the anchor of that future, but it has become an anchor that is slowly dragging us down. And so it is time to let go of the House of Dreams.
I fell in love with this house six years ago, after one glance at a photo. It seemed to encapsulate everything I desired in a place to live. I dreamed of a large old house with children and cats and a dog, and a barn with chickens or ducks and perhaps some sheep. I dreamed of a large garden full of vegetables and herbs, and flower gardens brimming with color. I dreamed of baking bread and making cheese. I dreamed of summer nights with campfires and stars and fire flies, and winters with cozy blankets and a crackling wood stove. I dreamed of a studio filled with fabric and threads and beads, and the freedom to spend quiet weekday mornings in church at divine liturgy.
We were so close. We had the big old house, and the barn, and cats, and chickens. We had evenings under the stars in summer, and evenings beside the wood stove in winter. We had molded ourselves to living in this place. In March, just before I first got sick, we were tapping maple trees, starting vegetable seeds, I was hauling wood daily to heat the house, and working to expand two small businesses.
Here I learned how to stack firewood, light and maintain a wood stove, use a riding lawn mower, raise chicks and keep laying hens, how to cook all the cuts in half a pig, butcher a rooster, make maple syrup, can pickles and jam, make sourdough bread and yogurt, and how run a small business. More than half of these, I learned to do after becoming sick. But the work involved in doing all of them, and keeping up a large old house on three acres, has overtaken us, and I need less work and more rest.
But there was still so much more I wanted to learn and to do, in this place that I love. I was happy to choose my own hardships.
All last summer, last fall and winter, and this spring–for a full year–I worked hard to keep hold of these dreams, or at least worked hard to believe that I could keep them. But I found, when the time came to relinquish the House of Dreams, that I let go more easily than expected. I have been worn down over the past year, and my grip was tired and loose. The fact that this house was never really ours made it easier. Love and hard work do not create a legal deed. The house belongs to someone else, and we were only borrowing it. We had built our dreams on someone else’s foundation. It was time to let go, and I did.
But I still mourn them, my lovely dreams. I look out over our flower gardens, out over the river in our lush green valley, and my heart aches.
For the time being, I don’t want or need to replace the dreams I planted and grew here. There are too many practicalities to consider, too many necessities that would require concessions. And I cannot help but wonder, if perhaps I too long neglected the practical and the necessary in pursuit of my desires. Perhaps they were not wrong to have, but they were misplaced and mistimed; trying to make a garden out of the wilderness.
So my dreams for myself, and for this place, will remain here, buried deep in the soil between the roots of the maple trees.
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“Oh–dreams,” sighed Anne, “I can’t dream now, Captain Jim–I’m done with dreams.”
“Oh no, you’re not, Mistress Blythe–oh, no, you’re not,” said Captain Jim meditatively. “I know how you feel just now–but if you keep on living you’ll get glad again and the first thing you know you’ll be dreaming again–thank the good Lord for it! If it wasn’t for our dreams they might as well bury us. How’d we stand living if it wasn’t for our dream of immortality? And that’s a dream that’s bound to come true, Mistress Blythe.”
–Anne’s House of Dreams, L.M. Montgomery